How can one Develop Resilience?

According to Charney being an optimist is a characteristic of individuals. However it's important to note that this optimism shouldn't be overly positive and unrealistic. Instead aim to become a " optimist." Charney explains that realistic optimists pay attention to the aspects of the challenges they encounter. However unlike pessimists they don't dwell on the negatives. They acknowledge them learn from them and then focus on finding solutions.

While science has discovered genes associated with optimism and resilience Charney emphasizes that genes alone do not determine ones destiny. Experience plays a role, in developing these traits. Even if you haven't faced the challenge you're currently dealing with drawing from successful experiences can be beneficial in navigating your present difficult situation. Charney stresses that teaching this trait is possible for both adults and children. It's important not to shield children, from stress or challenges as they grow up; instead provide them with opportunities to face and overcome obstacles. "Now that doesn't imply you should traumatize them " Charney remarked.

Discover your compass

According to Charneys research many resilient individuals place importance on having a moral compass. As Mark Twain once wisely stated, doing the thing is always a bet. Charney explains that while having a center can be associated with religion or spirituality its not necessarily limited to those beliefs. Even atheists can possess a sense of what's right and wrong.

Embrace your lifes purpose

Studies have indicated that having a passion or purpose, in life is crucial, for building resilience. Feeling that what you're doing in life holds significance and that its morally imperative to pursue it becomes an aspect of resilience as mentioned by Charney. Additionally engaging in volunteer work can help foster this sense of purpose. Altruism plays a role in the lives of individuals as helping others provides them with a profound sense of purpose that extends beyond their own lives. Cultivate your communication codeResearch has shown that having a network of friends or family plays a crucial role, in developing resilience. It's like having a "tap code," to how Vietnam POWs mentally and emotionally coped with being confined in cells.

To cultivate resilience it's important to practice flexibility. This means being able to adapt and employ strategies and methods to overcome challenges as explained by George Bonanno, a professor of psychology and the director of the Loss, Trauma and Emotion Lab, at Columbia University.